Having a young child, I constantly struggle with priorities, and balancing the wants and the needs. I have always inclined to Buddhism, but I find very little time to delve into serious study and practice, it’s more like a subject I am fond off and is close to my heart.
I came across a very nice book about Buddhism by Tenzin Palmo, where she discussed exactly the combination of practice and raising a child, and here it goes:
… it seems to me that so many practices are integrated into taking care of a child. First of all, being present in the moment, being with the child, really experiencing the child. Then, there’s all these things like generosity, giving, not just giving things, which is probably the least of it, but giving your time, giving your attention and practicing patience. There’s effort and dedication because you can’t leave a child. When children are annoying or when you want to do something else, you can’t just put them outside the door like a cat, and forget about them. You’ve got them the whole time. They are always with you. Even when they are not present, you’re thinking about them. Then, of course there’s all this love, compassion, and caring for another being more than yourself. And at the same time, without attachment, learning how to have that open spaciousness in which the child can develop as a being in its own right, without your clinging to him or her. There are many, many things you can practice with a child.
I really enjoyed this text.
( Book title: Reflections On A Mountain Lake )
Have a great day!